There’s so much more to life than finding someone who will want you, or being sad over someone who doesn’t. There’s a lot of wonderful time to be spent discovering yourself without hoping someone will fall in love with you along the way, and it doesn’t need to be painful or empty. You need to fill yourself up with love. Not anyone else. Become a whole being on your own. Go on adventures, fall asleep in the woods with friends, wander around the city at night, sit in a coffeeshop on your own, write on bathroom stalls, leave notes in library books, dress up for yourself, give to others, smile a lot. Do all things with love, but don’t romanticize life like you can’t survive without it. Live for yourself and be happy on your own. It isn’t any less beautiful, I promise.

Emery Allen


Some days you just have to create your own sunshine.

A wise man sat in the audience and cracked a joke. Everybody laughs like crazy. After a moment, he cracked the same joke again. This time, less people laughed. He cracked the same joke again and again. When there is no laughter in the crowd, he smiled and said: “You can’t laugh at the same joke again and again, but why do you keep crying over the same thing over and over again?”

Life’s Little Instructions

  1. Sing in the shower.
  2. Treat everyone you meet like you want to be treated.
  3. Watch a sunrise at least once a year.
  4. Never refuse homemade brownies.
  5. Strive for excellence, not perfection.
  6. Plant a tree on your birthday.
  7. Learn three clean jokes.
  8. Return borrowed vehicles with the gas tank full.
  9. Never waste an opportunity to tell someone you love them.
  10. Leave everything a little better than you found it.
  11. Keep it simple.
  12. Think big thoughts but relish small pleasures.
  13. Become the most positive and enthusiastic person you know.
  14. Be forgiving on yourself and others.
  15. Say “thank you” a lot.
  16. Say “please” a lot.
  17. Avoid negative people.
  18. Wear polished shoes.
  19. Remember other people’s birthdays.
  20. Commit yourself to constant improvement.
  21. Have a firm handshake.
  22. Send lots of valentine cards, sign them.
  23. Look people in the eye.
  24. Be the first to say “hello.”
  25. Return all the things you borrow.
  26. Make new friends but cherish the old ones.
  27. Keep secrets.
  28. Plant flowers every spring.
  29. Have a dog.
  30. Always accept an outstretched hand.
  31. Stop blaming others.
  32. Take responsibility for every area of your life.
  33. Wave at kids on school buses.
  34. Be there when people need you.
  35. Don’t expect life to be fair.
  36. Never underestimate the power of love.
  37. Drink champagne for no reason at all.
  38. Live your life as an exclamation, not an explanation.
  39. Don’t be afraid to say “I made a mistake.”
  40. Don’t be afraid to say “I don’t know.”
  41. Compliment even small improvements.
  42. Keep your promises no matter what.
  43. Marry only for love.
  44. Rekindle old friendships.
  45. Count your blessings.
  46. Call your mother and your dad too, if they happen to be alive.

(William Snell, 1993)

Let go of the things that you are not supposed to hold on to. They made you happy once, but maybe this time, they’ll make someone happier.

Happiness is not something you experience, it’s something you remember.

Making me happy doesn’t require a lot of effort. Actually, your presence is just enough.